Admittedly this is often easier said than done as it’s often harder than it looks. Note though the word “aim”. It does not say, “Be perfect at this 100% of the time or it’s pointless!” That might be too lofty a goal for most.
Instead, “aim” for this; strive, work towards, develop, improve, give yourself permission to get it wrong sometimes and, when it does, instead of beating yourself up for it, look for the learning lesson so you can do it better next time.
We can, for example, strive to express our thoughts less aggressively or defensively, instead looking to see what thoughts we have before responding to something. Personally, I’m aware of not always getting it right, of course not.
So, instead, where the situation doesn’t improve, I look to see what different thoughts I might have had at that time, which in turn might have influenced different words and deeds and might have generated a different outcome.
Our word choices will be heavily governed by our emotional responses to circumstances. Instead of hateful words, look for loving words, ones that express your position or need, yet empathise with the other person’s position or need. It’s a healthy aim to have.
What situations are you currently facing that might benefit from a moment’s extra thought before responding? What different outcomes do you think you might aim for when you communicate with this other person or these other people? How can you shift your communication so it meets your and their needs and retains harmony between you?
Love and light,