As is usual in these reflections, we’ll steer clear of any specific religious associations and look instead at the wider message, although if the prayer element resonates with you, that’s of course fine too. You could even remove the words “in prayer” from the sentence and still have a wonderfully poetic piece of wisdom for life regardless of any religious overtones.
The idea that we sometimes use words without having a sincere, heartfelt connection to them is one worth contemplating, the suggestion being that it’s better to have non-verbalised positive feelings than to express words that lack conviction of any belief in their meaning.
In simpler terms, speaking for speaking’s sake, with insincerity and absence of conviction, serves little or no true purpose when it comes to connecting with people. Compare that with gestures of connection such as offering a gift, or a warm embrace, or just being with someone who is emotionally wounded – at those times, the act is greater than any words can express. Of course, you can at times combine the two – it’s all situational……
In more psychological terms, it’s been demonstrated (by Professor Albert Mehrabian) that only 7% of the impact we have on others is related directly to word choice – the rest is covered by how we look and sound. So, our actions really can speak more loudly than words and expressing feeling through heartfelt gestures is considered more likely to increase real connection than by expressing feeling through words you don’t truly mean.
One of the ways, therefore, in which we can improve connection to each other is to ensure that our words match our actions. By striving to ensure that our hearts and our mouths are better linked, by becoming more aware of why we say what we say, we can improve what we do – for our own sake as well as for others’. Thus we meet each other more at heart level.
In what way can you communicate your heartfelt connection with someone today, without relying on vocabulary to express yourself? What act of kindness can you demonstrate instead, from the heart, that speaks to them without words?
Love and light,