“It is better in prayer to have a heart without words than words without a heart.” – Mahatma Gandhi


As is usual in these reflections, we’ll steer clear of any specific religious associations and look instead at the wider message, although if the prayer element resonates with you, that’s of course fine too. You could even remove the words “in prayer” from the sentence and still have a wonderfully poetic piece of wisdom for life regardless of any religious overtones. 

The idea that we sometimes use words without having a sincere, heartfelt connection to them is one worth contemplating, the suggestion being that it’s better to have non-verbalised positive feelings than to express words that lack conviction of any belief in their meaning.

In simpler terms, speaking for speaking’s sake, with insincerity and absence of conviction, serves little or no true purpose when it comes to connecting with people. Compare that with gestures of connection such as offering a gift, or a warm embrace, or just being with someone who is emotionally wounded – at those times, the act is greater than any words can express. Of course, you can at times combine the two – it’s all situational……

In more psychological terms, it’s been demonstrated (by Professor Albert Mehrabian) that only 7% of the impact we have on others is related directly to word choice – the rest is covered by how we look and sound. So, our actions really can speak more loudly than words and expressing feeling through heartfelt gestures is considered more likely to increase real connection than by expressing feeling through words you don’t truly mean.

One of the ways, therefore, in which we can improve connection to each other is to ensure that our words match our actions. By striving to ensure that our hearts and our mouths are better linked, by becoming more aware of why we say what we say, we can improve what we do – for our own sake as well as for others’. Thus we meet each other more at heart level.

In what way can you communicate your heartfelt connection with someone today, without relying on vocabulary to express yourself? What act of kindness can you demonstrate instead, from the heart, that speaks to them without words?

Love and light,

Jim Sharman



  1. Beautiful reflection on the quote of Gandhi. Thank you! 🙂

    Maya Angelou has said: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” ❤

    It reminded me as well that our state of being, emotional, often can be sensed too even if we are not demonstrating it directly to anyone specifically. Especially, it could be sensed by the people who are more sensitive by feeling/noticing these kind of energies/signs.

    • Namaste Evelyn

      Good to see you back with your reflections!

      Yes, everything we feel inside ourselves is felt outside by others, whether we think we’re transmitting or not……so the goodness that lies in our hearts needs no words, only positive intention. The most recipient and ready people receive it. Such as you. <3


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